penawar hati

"..Tuhanmu lebih mengetahui apa yang ada dalam hatimu; jika kamu orang-orang yang baik, maka sesungguhnya Dia Maha Pengampun bagi orang-orang yang bertaubat..." - ayat 25, Surah Al -Israa'.


"..Jika kamu menjauhi dosa-dosa besar di antara dosa-dosa yang dilarang kamu mengerjakannya, nescaya Kami hapus kesalahan-kesalahanmu ( dosa-dosa mu yang kecil ) dan Kami masukkan kamu ke tempat yang mulia ( syurga ) - ayat 31, Surah An Nisaa'


"..Sifat-sifat yang baik itu tidak dianugerahkan melainkan kepada orang-orang yang sabar dan tidak dianugerahkan melainkan kepada orang-orang yang mempunyai keberuntungan yang besar..." - ayat 35, Surah Al-Fushshilat.


"..Katakanlah: " Hai hamba-hamba-KU yang beriman, bertakwalah kepada Tuhanmu ". Orang-orang yang berbuat baik di dunia ini memperoleh kebaikan. Dan bumi Allah itu adalah luas. Sesungguhnya hanya orang-orang yang bersabarlah yang dicukupkan pahala mereka tanpa batas.." - ayat 10, Surah Az-Zumar.

" Dan belanjakanlah (harta bendamu) di jalan Allah, dan janganlah kamu menjatuhkan dirimu sendiri ke dalam kebinasaan, dan berbuat baiklah, kerana sesungguhnya Allah menyukai orang-orang yang berbuat baik.." - ayat 195, Surah Al Baqarah

"..Barangsiapa yang mengerjakan amal saleh, baik laki-laki mahupun perempuan dalam keadaan yang beriman, maka sesungguhnya akan Kami berikan kepadanya kehidupan yang baik, dan sesungguhnya akan Kami beri balasan kepada mereka dengan pahala yang lebih baik dari apa yang telah mereka kerjakan.." - ayat 97, Surah An Nahl.

"..Sesungguhnya Allah tidak menganiaya seseorang walaupun sebesar zarrah, dan jika ada kebajikan sebesar zarrah, nescaya Allah akan melipatgandakannya dan memberikan dari sisi-NYA pahala yang besar.." -ayat 40, Surah An Nisaa'

.." Kerana itu, ingatlah kamu kepada-KU nescaya AKU ingat pula kepadamu, dan bersyukurlah kepada-KU, dan janganlah kamu mengingkari nikmat-KU "
- ayat 152, Surah Al- Baqarah

short ponderings

what make a relationship a success ...?


learn to compromise and tolerate,
learn to share and open up your feelings to another person,
enjoy each other's company,
patience,
understanding,
good communication,
have feelings to one another,
and most importantly..TRUST......
( any addition to this list, people..? =] )


but i think the best answer, would be, " two people who work together to make the relationship work "


"....being in a relationship is like getting a driver's license - if you want to be a motorist there are road rules to follow, or else you can just remain a pedestrian all ur life.." - WHY MEN DON'T HAVE A CLUE & WOMEN ALWAYS NEED MORE SHOES, by Barbara and Allen Pease.

it's the hormone !..( yeah rite..)

those few days in a month. When u dont know why u feel so gloomy, lazy, unenergetic...and fat. When u have such a humoungous appetite tht cause u eating like u never eat before, like u want to swallow the entire fridge content. =/. And ruining ur body, mind and health. When suddenly u feel like crying for the slightest of reason, or sometimes for no reasonable cause at all. Being overly sensitive, cranky , moody, ...all bloated up and feeling unattractive. ..bleahh...=/....( haihhh...)

Part and parcel of being a woman ehh..? My mom disagree with this, she says tht by thinking of it tht way, woman will alwys surrender and accept this 'not-so-pretty' behaviour which will occur once in a while, in the few days before menstruation. She has a point there, should not use 'hormonal imbalances' as an excuse for acting weird or eating a lot. But ..ehehe... who else to blame other thn nature, dodging away from being the guilty person here.. ;]

eat too many chocolate. which leads to flaring up of allergy. because of allergy attack, become stressed and when u are stressed, u eat chocolate again. Talk about vicious cycle. =/.

Need to put a stop to this 'unhealthy' phase. Will start it right away....=D

Tomorrow, start ur day early. Smile to the sun..( i mean, the morning sun, not the burning hot 12 pm sun..). Wipe the 'habuk' from that bored-looking treadmill and jump on it. Read good novels, woman's magz. Meet up some friends. Go out naz, get some fresh air outside of the house, ( and stop declining invitation from ppl who's kind enough to help colour ur bland days.....)

Maybe a movie will help too...'Click' sounds like a fun movie to watch. A walk around KL..window shopping, Borders.,...and feasting at Kenny Rogers, that delicious pretzel, not forgetting the McDonald icecream =D....yeah, and also.. the..
(...Err, ..i dont think tht's part of the healthy living plan...naz ). .

thank you Allah

Kecenderungan sifat manusia; mudah lupa. berkeluh-kesah. tak pernah puas. Sebelum dapat, sangat hendak, bermati-matian mahu. Tapi bila dalam genggaman, kita buat endah tak endah, kita tidak hargai.

We tend to take things and people we love for granted.

Mungkin cara untuk lebih menghargai adalah dengan mengingatkan diri kita bahawa ini adalah 'pemberian daripada Allah'. A gift from Allah. Daripada banyak-banyak hamba-NYA, Dia berikan kepada kita. Peluang untuk hidup sehingga hari ini. Kesihatan dan kehidupan yang baik. Dikurniakankan ibu ayah, adik beradik, keluarga tempat kita berlindung. Dianugerahkan kita keupayaan, kelebihan dan bakat tertentu yang mungkin tidak dimiliki orang lain. Dan dihadiahkan-NYA kita seseorang untuk menemani perjalanan hidup kita, menyalurkan fitrah berkasih sayang dengan cara yang diredhai-NYA.

Bila kita melihat seseorang atau sesuatu itu sebagai 'hadiah Allah' kepada kita, kita akan sentiasa ingin menghargainya, kerana ia pemberian dari Pencipta. Kita rasa bersyukur dan berterimakasih, serta tidak akan mensia-siakannya. Bila kita memandang 'hadiah' itu di depan mata, menerima dia menjadi milik kita, ingatkan diri bahawa ini adalah anugerah Tuhan, maka sewajarnyalah kita sebagai hamba merasa bersyukur. Pesan pada diri, anugerah Tuhan ini dipinjamkan kepada kita seketika di dunia, untuk kita menikmati sebahagian daripada kurnia Tuhan yang Maha Pemurah. Alhamdulillah..!

Terima kasih Allah..atas pemberian ini. Bantulah kami, untuk sentiasa ingat pada-Mu, bersyukur atas anugerah-MU dan memanfaatkan kurniaan-MU untuk kebaikan dunia dan akhirat. Berkatilah dan rahmatilah kami..wahai Tuhan Maha Pemurah, Tuhan Pemilik semesta alam....

Petikan sebahagian ayat 12 Surah Luqman :
".....Bersyukurlah kepada Allah. Dan barangsiapa yang bersyukur ( kepada Allah ), maka sesungguhnya ia bersyukur untuk dirinya sendiri; dan barangsiapa tidak bersyukur, sesungguhnya Allah Maha Kaya lagi Maha Terpuji.."



" ......Ya Tuhanku, tunjukilah aku untuk mensyukuri nikmat Engkau yang telah Engkau berikan kepadaku dan kepada kedua ibu bapakku, dan supaya aku dapat berbuat amal saleh yang Engkau redhai; berilah kebaikan kepadaku dengan ( memberi kebaikan ) kepada anak cucuku. Sesungguhnya aku bertaubat kepada-MU dan sesungguhnya aku termasuk orang-orang yang berserah diri.." - petikan ayat 15, Surah Al-Ahqaaf

find the meaning

Do i ever mention in here before..about an amazing blog, written by a cancer patient, who suffered from a type of lung cancer..? He died peacefully on 4th of August after a year of battle to fight his cancer. May he rest in peace...

Got the chance to see him on tv, in Astro programme 'Ku Mohon', and was amazed at how calm and optimistic he was, talking about his cancer, sharing with ppl the pain and sufferings in such a way that makes it all look ,...serene and less cruel. In the frail bony figure,..smile was constantly on his face. Must be one wonderful man..

One of his entry caught my attention. About making a meaning of things that happen in life. Finding the reason to why he, ( and not some bad ppl who go around causing trouble in this world, err..this is my addition) who got inflicted with this terminal illness. And what he choose to do, to make use of his destiny, rather than blaming fate. He chose to blog his life..., hoping to increase awareness about cancer, and perhaps instill some sort of realisation in us about the important things in life. Things that we smtmes take for granted.

Here is an extract of his blog, an entry dated 22nd May 2005. Read on..maybe this can help to remind us the reasons, of our short existence in this world too..

Sunday, May 22 2005

Make Meaning

"There has to be a meaning in this". Don't we just hate it when something happened with seemingly no reason? For example someone affiliated with a disease. Some may wonder if a Higher Power is sending them a message. Some may speculate this is some form of punishment. Or one may just dismiss it as nature's lottery.

I decided to make my own meaning. Forget about Higher Power sending messages. Ain't gonna wait for no divine revelation. I want to decide, on my own, now, what I want to do with this cancer.

I was thinking...look...I got the biggies...you want lung cancer? I got both. Bone cancer...got it....Brain? check...lymph? had it. So what is the meaning of all these? What a waste to have all these cancers and let the guy just roll over!!!

So I have DECIDED that my cancer means:
- I MUST make use of this gift.
- I MUST make sure others benefit.
- I MUST regain my health so that I can say..."...I have done it, so can you..."

Now...I can show that one can have all these cancer and still make a CHOICE and DECIDE how you deal with it.

So what is my CHOICE?
- I choose to be brave, so that you can;
- I choose to enjoy learning to regain my health, so that you can;
- I choose to revel in this as an adventure; so that you will too.

I have decided on the meaning of my cancer. I have chosen how to deal with it. So I am inviting you again, come join Hee Boon on his Amazing New Adventures :)

- Foo Hee Boon www.fhbadventure.blogspot.com

Thank you Hee Boon, ..and yeap, u did it. Your optimism, the entries u wrote so diligently in your blog, your never-ending fight up until the end..all these efforts of yours, i know must have benefited someone out there. Thank you, ..for sharing ur life adventures with us,..=]


Make a meaning, find the reason...and try to focus on the brighter side of everything. Life is too short to be wasted with tears..



"..there's a meaning to life events, to teach us how to laugh more, or not to cry too hard.." - Anon

having fun with the robe!

hmm...this is wht happen when the graduation robe is already hanging in ur room 5 days before ur graduation day. U just cant stop gazing at it, and every now and then, u keep checking that piece of garment to make sure that no bugs are crawling on it, and no unwanted wrinkles or stains at it. Duuhh...

And ur mind..( i mean, my mind..ehehe ), keep thinking as i look at the dark pink robe neatly hanged next to the mirror.." tudung warna apa nak pakai nih..? =/ "
Ok ok..i know some ppl, esp guys..must be muttering to themselves.." apalah itu yg difikirnya...." Eheheh.., it is important for me, a person who likes to make sure i dress my best,erm..most of the time, i mean. And this is graduation day we are talking about...=D, and i am excited..eheh, err..though speaking of clothes, now i remember tht i havent yet buy the baju to wear underneath the robe..=/. Err..bila nak beli ni naz..? Ok..esok. Back to the tudung discussion.

Spent the whole evening fumbling with the graduation robe, trying to make it sit still on my shoulder. Posing in front of the full-length mirror for hours, checking how it looks on me from all sides. Pretending tht im already on stage, walking proudly and waving to my parents sitting among the audience.( err..i dont think we can do tht, omit tht one ). Practicing my smile and the bow, as i receive the scroll... and who knows, the honourable man presenting the scroll to me would be captivated with my smile and later appointed me as his personal dentist..eheheh,...! =D

ok..its the tudung again. Tried drapping around my head a few different-coloured tudung, with my mom acting as the judge. But no counclusion or decision achieved, after hours of trying.

" mama rasa tudung hitamlah elok. Nampak masuk dan smart skett..tengok gambar mama dan kakak ms graduation.." ( huh..black..? not really among my fav colour..naz, must we consider favourites here..?)
" how about brown ?..ok ok, i know, kalau tak brown, ...tudung perang, light brown..? " ( hmm..takkan everytime pun nak brown...=/)

Kan best kalau diseragamkan semua org pakai tudung hitam, tak payah fikir2 nak pakai tudung apa...save my time and the hassle. Even better, seragam tudung brown. =D

And then i remembered my 'lucky tudung'. Have 2 of it, my fav tudung. The headscarf which i would wear when im feeling good,..because i think i look good in it. =p. The tudung of choice for special occasions..like, ermm.., any special day tht i want to remember =]. But it's quite worn out now..still, it's my lucky tudung, hmm..

Well.., there' still 5 days to go, plenty of time ....
I'll think about it tomorrow.....

which are u?

Type One The Reformer
The principled, idealistic type. Ones are conscientious and ethical, with a strong sense of right and wrong. They are teachers, crusaders, and advocates for change: always striving to improve things, but afraid of making a mistake. Well-organized, orderly, and fastidious, they try to maintain high standards, but can slip into being critical and perfectionistic. They typically have problems with resentment and impatience. At their Best: wise, discerning, realistic, and noble. Can be morally heroic.

Type Two The Helper
The caring, interpersonal type. Twos are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others, but can slip into doing things for others in order to be needed. They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs. At their Best: unselfish and altruistic, they have unconditional love for others.

Type Three The Achiever
The adaptable, success-oriented type. Threes are self-assured, attractive, and charming. Ambitious, competent, and energetic, they can also be status-conscious and highly driven for advancement. They are diplomatic and poised, but can also be overly concerned with their image and what others think of them. They typically have problems with workaholism and competitiveness. At their Best:: self-accepting, authentic, everything they seem to be—role models who inspire others.

Type Four The Individualist
The introspective, romantic type. Fours are self-aware, sensitive, and reserved. They are emotionally honest, creative, and personal, but can also be moody and self-conscious. Withholding themselves from others due to feeling vulnerable and defective, they can also feel disdainful and exempt from ordinary ways of living. They typically have problems with melancholy, self-indulgence, and self-pity. At their Best: inspired and highly creative, they are able to renew themselves and transform their experiences.

Type Five The Investigator The perceptive, cerebral type. Fives are alert, insightful, and curious. They are able to concentrate and focus on developing complex ideas and skills. Independent, innovative, and inventive, they can also become preoccupied with their thoughts and imaginary constructs. They become detached, yet high-strung and intense. They typically have problems with eccentricity, nihilism, and isolation. At their Best: visionary pioneers, often ahead of their time, and able to see the world in an entirely new way.

Type Six The Loyalist
The committed, security-oriented type. Sixes are reliable, hard-working, responsible, and trustworthy. Excellent "troubleshooters," they foresee problems and foster cooperation, but can also become defensive, evasive, and anxious—running on stress while complaining about it. They can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant and rebellious. They typically have problems with self-doubt and suspicion. At their Best: internally stable and self-reliant, courageously championing themselves and others.

Type Seven The Enthusiast
The busy, productive type. Sevens are extroverted, optimistic, versatile, and spontaneous. Playful, high-spirited, and practical, they can also misapply their many talents, becoming over-extended, scattered, and undisciplined. They constantly seek new and exciting experiences, but can become distracted and exhausted by staying on the go. They typically have problems with impatience and impulsiveness. At their Best: they focus their talents on worthwhile goals, becoming appreciative, joyous, and satisfied.

Type Eight The Challenger
The powerful, aggressive type. Eights are self-confident, strong, and assertive. Protective, resourceful, straight-talking, and decisive, but can also be ego-centric and domineering. Eights feel they must control their environment, especially people, sometimes becoming confrontational and intimidating. Eights typically have problems with their tempers and with allowing themselves to be vulnerable. At their Best: self-mastering, they use their strength to improve others' lives, becoming heroic, magnanimous, and inspiring.

Type Nine The Peacemaker
The easy-going, self-effacing type. Nines are accepting, trusting, and stable. They are usually creative, optimistic, and supportive, but can also be too willing to go along with others to keep the peace. They want everything to go smoothly and be without conflict, but they can also tend to be complacent, simplifying problems and minimizing anything upsetting. They typically have problems with inertia and stubbornness. At their Best: indomitable and all-embracing, they are able to bring people together and heal conflicts.