04 April 2005

blissful marriage

4th April 2005...happy 25th anniversary..mama and ayah!!!! =D

Wow..it's already their 'jubli perak'...recalling a joke i made with them the day before.." ayah dan mama buatlah persandingan semula..hehe,sempena jubli perak nih ". And the ever-not-romantic ayah of mine, shrugged off the idea, saying.." hussh..dh tua2 malulah..haa..mama suka tu nak bersanding, dia nak buat kat beranda tuh" Hahahh..i knew he'd say that, teasing my mother, who like usual, would smile at every joke my father made. Watching them teasing one another ( emm..where my father is the big teaser ) and laughing uproariously ( also my father is the one laughing the most..), the happiness i felt was bursting, overwhelming. Ya Allah, kekalkan kasih sayang dan kebahagiaan antara mereka, dan jadikanlah kami 7 beradik anak2 yg soleh dan solehah buat mereka ..aminn..

I remember asking my mother, as we were sitting in our new house, watching my father and my youngest brother delightfully playing under the rain ( actually they were digging holes and planting trees in the garden, but it rained heavily, my father shooed me into the house, leaving him to continue working under the rain in other words, 'mandi hujan' ). I asked her.." apa rahsia mengekalkan rumahtangga, mama..?". Seriously , i wanted to know, i barely see them quarelling, in fact i think i never catch them squabbling at one another. I never see my mom raised her voice to my father. They are always together, anywhere my father go, be it shopping, working in our new garden, or just a ride around kl, he will bring my mom along. And they communicate endlessly, as if there's nothing under the sun that they can't talk or discuss about. And usually my father is the one who talks a lot, compared to my mother who will play the role as the listener. Looks like the common statement ppl made," ..Kalau nak tahu psgn atas kereta tu husband and wife atau psgn bercinta, senang je. Kalau seorg pandang kiri, seorg pandang kanan, dan senyap tak bercakap apa, tu psgn dh berkahwin. Kalau rancak berbual tu psgn yg tgh maksyuk bercinta.." . Hah..my parents proved this wrong.

And mama answered .." Sabar, mesti bnyk bersabar. Kalau seorg tu ego, yg seorg lagi tak boleh nak ego jugak. Mama dah bersama dgn ayah lebih lama dr mama hidup dgn arwah mak dan ayah mama..." As she said this, her eyes was following my father's movement, who digged and worked joyously under the rain. Once in a while, my father will turned to look at my mother, grinning like a small boy seeking approval from his mother. And my mom will smile back, laughing at his antics while her eyes never leave him. I swore i saw love, love so big and so much that it was written and shone through her eyes.

Thank you Allah, for the love and happiness you bestowed upon us..bless us, and may us be a grateful servant to You..always.

Surah Ar-Rum, ayat 21 yang bermaksud.." Dan antara tanda - tanda kekuasaan- Nya, ialah Dia menciptakan untukmu isteri-isteri dari jenismu sendiri, supaya kamu cenderung dan merasa tenteram kepadanya, dan dijadikan - Nya di antaramu rasa kasih dan sayang. Sesungguhnya pada yang demikian itu benar-benar terdapat tanda - tanda bagi kaum yang berfikir.."

before i end, here's sthg i dedicated to my mama and ayah..

Mak aku pernah cakap, masa tengah duduk dapur tengok mak kupas mangga,
“ Perkahwinan ini macam satu perjudian, kita tidak tahu macamana akhirnya”
Aku pandang emak lama,
Uban dan kedut dah merata,
Pendek kata, dulu dan sekarang jauh berbeza,
Tapi pada ayah, pandangannya tetap sama,
Gurau senda seperti sediakala,
Hanya pada emak tempat ayah bermanja,
Sedangkan ayah lebih dari cukup syaratnya,
Kalau berhajat nak pasang dua.

Aku pernah tanya ayah,
“ orang kata lelaki ini pada awalnya saja penuh rasa cinta,
tapi bila dah bertahun – tahun berumahtangga,
yang tinggal cuma rasa tanggungjawab sahaja, betul ke ?”
Masa tu ayah tengah pandu kereta,
Perlahan suara ayah berkata,
Itu terpulang kepada si jejaka,
Nyatalah itu bukan hakikatnya,
Pada ayah, hanya emak selama-lamanya,
Dulu sayang, kini bertambah cinta,
Kerana bersamanya, lahir penyambung keturunan keluarga.

Aku pandang ayah lama,
Aku renung emak penuh rasa,
Barangkali inilah ibarat kata,
Sehidup semati bersama berdua,
Bukti masih wujud cinta setia,
Dalam dunia yang banyak syaitan bertopengkan manusia.

Dalam hati aku bersyukur,
Emak memang bertuah, ayah tumpang beruntung,
Kerana menemui pelengkap diri,
Dalam perhubungan suami isteri.


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